Evening Reading all these threads about why our bikes have low miles etc and people wanting to ride more has made me wonder if anyone else has a similar mental problem to me. In a nutshell I feel guilty when I go out and grab an hour / two at a weekend - ie time not being spent with SWMBO. We both work long hours in stressful jobs so our weekends are precious to us, and when the weather is 'ducati weather' thoughts of nice cycle rides or walks with the dog etc nearly always seem to take precident over going out for a ride. I tried to sort this last year by getting her to learn to ride - she had a Suzuki 125 and did her CBT fine. Went for Mod 1 and came off doing swerve test in the wet - 30mph along the tarmac and has only just got full movement in her shoulder back a year on. We sold her 125 as she knew it wasn't going to happen after that (and it was one of the worst recent memories I have, seeing her hit the deck). So, with all that in mind (and my own probably misplaced guilt over suggesting she learn then injuring herself) I feel guilty whenever I go out on mine. Any (sensible) tips?
Ask her what she thinks. Polar answers are (1) don't do it you selfish git, (2) go for it. the truth will probably be somewhere in between, and at least you get it out there for discussion, and hopefully get to ride with a clean conscience (if maybe for a few weekends less per year than you could selfishly hope for). no point harbouring guilt in the back of your mind, just get it out there. pete
Does she make "comments" when you go out? If not don't worry if she does then it shouldn't make you feel guilty she knows you're a rider so it's down to her to accept it!
I came off mine back in 2010 I'm hoping to be back on this year after fracturing one shoulder and dislocating the other and fracturing my collar bone I'm scared but if my other half rode I wouldn't want to miss out going Maybe she could pillion with you for a while best of both worlds I'm going to take some refresher lessons to build my confidence.
Yup , stay at ours ..... Rider plus day to get you back into it then a blast with me , emm, tell etc !!!!! Ring emm she'll sort ya ooot x
My wife loves having the time to herself when I go out on the bike. She has the ipad, 50 shades of grey and my credit card, what else could she need! So I don't feel guilty, only a wee bit if its a weekend adventure away on the old girl (748)
Spend all the bad weather season doing things together/things she wants to do, then you should nbe able to get some of the good weather days to yourself. Points make prizes Oh and a relationship is a two way thing :biggrin:
you have to stop feeling guilty & maybe use the lighter evenings instead - who knows she might be glad to get you out of the house for an hour or two
Cheers everyone - i think an open conversation is the first step then talk to her about the things she like to do (reading, baking etc) and i'll try and time rides out with her doing these things - hopefully should get sorted out. Ducbird - hope you're feeling a lot better now - sounds painful....
I'm afraid you will never get the biking bug out of your system, there is no cure. You just have to get on and do it and she needs to understand that you need to. How you get that across depends on your relationship. When I met Mrs Nothingbettertodo I explained in simple English that biking is what I do and that being a mere bloke I would not change. We have got along swimmingly (me, my bikes and Caroline) for the past ten years since!! Of course that didn't work quite so well on the ex-wife!!
Yeah Viv come and stop at ours bring the kids if you need to too and then you can do rider plus training day then we can go out! Xx
Apart from shitty winter, Mrs C and myself only see each other in the evening at weekends. She does her equine stuff and Im doing what ever suits me. Happy days
My missus has always given me grief; grief if I use it, grief if I dont. She doesnt have any guilt about that, so why should I?!
