The fact that you are considering your options indicates a certain level of dissatisfaction with your life. While we aren’t all cookie cutter copies and have different drives and motivations, we are all subject to the same basic psychological needs. Some of us might crave adventure. Some might be homebodies who are happy living in the same place their whole lives. Some might be materialistic. Others driven by creativity. I always remember Maslow’s hierarchy of human needs in these situations - it’s a flawed model but there’s a lot of truth in it. You have to know yourself well enough to understand what motivates you - and only you know what’s right for you. This particular quote resonates with me: “Don't live the same year 75 times and call it a life” But on the other hand there’s awful lot to be said for a solid income and financial security. It’s easy to take it for granted - but once it’s gone, like your health, everything else quickly loses importance. In my experience: Being poor is not much fun. No matter how far you go - the one thing you can’t get away from is yourself. People make a place - everything else is just decoration. There’s some good advice on here - you get one life - live it. But if you think moving somewhere else will magically fix the things you may be disappointed. Be clear in your head on what you want and ensure you have a safety net if things don’t work out.
Some interesting perspectives which is what I wanted! Saying London may have been very specific, I have friends down there and love it every time I go but really anywhere is on the cards, just seems like a lot of opportunities down there. Thing is my job at the minute I have a decent amount of free reign, so I'm a little bit daunted of going somewhere new and having to report everything I do and justify it. I work hard and don't take the piss so don't feel like I should have to! I used to run my uncles business and used to help my dad in his business so I'm fully aware of what it takes. I'm not afraid of hard work at all and want a real challenge. Not scared of putting the hours in. I guess I don't want to wake up at 50 and regret not moving away somewhere better. But equally I could do that and it not work out, come back and lose 2 very good opportunities and end up in a worse position?!
My free time is cars bikes and drinking. I work a lot, probably 50 - 60 hours a week, but still enjoy myself out of it. I'm not enjoying my current job as much as I used to so maybe it's just a rough spell to get over? I guess it doesn't really challenge me that much anymore and I've lost some motivation.
I have been self employed since 19 I'm 43 now so have a few years on you joe , when all my buddies went traveling I didn't I was a workaholic and was always growing my business and buying property this was my road and I don't regret not traveling ive been all over the world on holiday , I'm now at the stage I could not work should I choose but I do 40 hours max and have 6 weeks holidays minimum every year and all my paperwork is handled by my accountant for an easy life, I think joe you will be successful either way having 2 very good opportunities hasn't happened by mistake !! But I'm a number 2\1 I'm a cautious fella !! Best of luck buddy !!
Bugger off somewhere for a bit - do something for free helping others you’re young you sound like you need some space to breath for a while put off decision making for a bit if you are able you’ll know what’s the right thing to do when it’s time Don’t regret decisions make plans instead
Tough one Joe, whilst working for yourself is great in one respect it brings its own issues/headaches, not least of which is making sure you’ve got enough cash each week/month to pay the staff & bills, especially when customers don’t pay you for ages. The grass always looks greener but sometimes it’s not. However, your young, unattached and presumably no kids, you can afford to take risks that others can’t, so if you’re going to make a big change Now’s the time to do it. If it doesn’t work out you’ll recover. I lived & worked in London for 25+ years, don’t miss it all now, got caught on the hamster wheel of life there and struggled to get off but bloody glad I did. @LiveFast...... has some wise words above. Wherever you go, whatever you do, you take yourself with you. I understand if you don’t feel challenged at work but that’s not the environment in which to make a life changing decision. As said above, take a long holiday 3-4 weeks, go away, go trekking in the mountains, riding bikes, across Mongolia, whatever, but go on your own (although you can meet & mix with strangers) and have a think about what it is you want out of life. I also highly recommend buying a book, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma and taking it with you to read. If there’s one book everyone should read to help them in their life it’s that.
I can only tell you about my working life and my thoughts have always been as soon as you stop enjoying what you are doing try something else. I have run my own businesses for the past 20 years and although it's not all a bed of roses it sure as hell beats working for someone else. I do have one regret as I had the opportunity to go to Australia in my 30's and didn't go because of my then girlfriend.
Just a super quick bit of advice on running your own business. 1. Cash flow is the killer for most business.... waiting to get paid, so you can pay others. 2. Feast then famine of the small one man sales man then workman cycle.... the stress of not seeing where the next job is coming from. 3. You need to be self driven to make it work... it's definitely not for everyone.
Don't go to London. My sister went there and brought up a family. All her kids are fekin weird. They talk funny. And vote Labour ffs....
It's because it would be so very, very wrong to like London. Unthinkable. Hate is a strong word, but it'll do.
London's great for a visit. To go and look at all the touristy stuff. But it's equally great to high tail it the fuck outa there and go home. To somewhere nice
Sorry pal !!! But if its any consolation I hate all shithole citys with a passion so I'm an equal opportunity city hater !
