One of my chaps (work) is having counselling via teams. He's doing well on it, better than a telecom and no C-19 risk, if that's a concern.
I left but retained a set of keys as I was paying the mortgage and endowment. Former SWMBO must have contributed about £15-20k over the years from work bonuses. Everything else was down to me inc. sale of my old flat, none of that counts, not even the £50k my mother generously contributed when we last moved. Split down the middle on a price agreed in late 2017 just after we split. I wasn't going to argue, it got to the stage where I just wanted it done so I could move on with my life. She's kept the contents, I've had, apart from a couple of pieces of family furniture inherited from my parents, to start from scratch which cost around £10k to fully fit out a house. She's got the house for a song really, we complete on Friday with her paying me for a half share in the equity. It's shit but she's the mother of my kids. She works three days a week and will inherit from her folks in a few years, they're in their 80s. Mine long since gone and she's had half of their legacy... Mustn't dwell on that, once I've got my Covid buggered house move back on track my new life starts in a new town but still within easy reach of my now all but grown up daughters.
iirc he’s spoken with a lawyer but it’ll be a long way off yet, however, as Bumpkin says above, makes bugger all difference these days it’s a straight 50/50 split and then there’s care and maintenance for children which is a different issue.
Unless there's a pre-nup in an established marriage, one with children is very much established, then it's going to be 50/50 on all marital assets no matter where they came from. Then, as Paul says, there's child maintenance to consider. As mine are older I'll only be paying that on the younger for the next couple of years. The eldest is now out of full time education. Came to a, what I consider a reasonable arrangement with my ex but that doesn't stop her going to the Child Maintenance Service in 12 months and hammering me for some more.
Thanks all again for the support, divorce is in motion, mortgage is under way for me to buy her out, amount agreed to buy her out and this is all at the solicitor. She’s getting more than half as she is getting the equity and the newest of the cars worth around 12 grand. I’m not fussed about the money to be honest, it’s breaking the family up that’s the bit that hurts the most.
If anyone is in touch with Lumbux he hasn’t been on for a couple days could you just check he is ok as well as can be ok Thanks
Hello all, I’m ok, we’ll as I can be. I’ve been sorting out paper work for the wife (Universal credits) and looking for a car for her as she can’t now afford to take my 308 that she was having. The weekend was rough, never been that low, and don’t want to again, not sure what happened, it was like a switch flipped. I’ve spoke to DB and Ed today and thank you to every for their concern it’s really appreciated and I hope my new freedom will let me meet up with a lot of you in the future. Will keep you all up to date with future developments,
Quick update, had to sell my ST Mondeo, been wanting one since I was 17, but there you go. Keeping the 308 that was the wife’s run around and she now has a Citroen DS3, suites her more than the Pug to be honest as it’s purple(new boyfriend is insured on it!!). So I’m left with a house I don’t want, a car I don’t want but have managed to hold onto the Ducati. On last piece of paper work to do for the mortgage and then it’s a waiting game for solicitors and the Decree Nissi to come through. Looking at October at the earliest I think. Little good news is that I have meet someone out if the blue and we’re getting on well, both want to take things slow and see what happens. Photo of me and the 900 for DB’s enjoyment!! Through it back to together so the fairings didn’t get damaged.
Ah Lumbux it’s good to hear things are moving in the right direction you can change all the things you don’t like in time and you got the Duke Keep going you got this
Glad to there is some light at the end of the tunnel Paul! Remember, in life, nothing has to be rushed so take it easy and let things take their natural path. I hope the new lady has perky breasts and a good sense of humour. Im home soon and will drop you a text.
Hello all, I know I’ve been quite recently that’s because I have been lucky enough to meet a beautiful young lady, and I have also got a new toy to play with. Picture below!! I’ve also made some home improvements again picture below, not quite finished!!
